Lilian F. Kporvi, an entrepreneur and a final year student at the Ghana Institute of Journalism, has listed some reasons why most young girls nowadays date multiple guys simultaneously.
Interviewed on eTV Ghana’s Girl Vibes show, she mentioned that peer pressure is one of the main reasons why some ladies date multiple guys. “If I have a friend or two friends who are into it, when I see the way they are treated by the men and how they tactically play the men, I may get influenced to try it too just for the fun of it”, she said.
Another thing she said, is money. “If I see my friend with expensive Brazilian wigs, goes to big places and all that, I’ll also want to belong so I’ll go in for two guys too”. According to her, some ladies may be dating a calm, loving guy but because he may not be rich, they go in for another guy who is financially capable of satisfying their needs.
In this case, she explained that the lady does not break up with the ‘poor’ guy because she gets proper love, care and affection for him, hence, she only keeps the rich guy around to sort out her financial needs as he may not give more love and attention.
Pastor Mrs. Aretha Mensah-Attipoe, a pastor at Royal House Chapel, also interviewed on the show, added that it is not wrong to date multiple men only if there is no sexual relationship between them. In her opinion, multiple dating is also okay if the reason is to be able to make a good choice of the man that you may in the long run decide to settle down with.
“If you want to understand their temperaments, their love languages, what they like and what they do not like, then it’s fine but if you’re dating multiple guys because you want an iPhone, Brazilian hair and worldly things, then you’re in for danger”, she further concluded.
By: Maureen Dedei Quaye