Relationship counsellor, PG Sebastian, has opined from his own observation that love is not being preached about properly in our societies.
Speaking with Comfort Ocran on the Springboard Hangout Show on your world of quality entertainment, eTV Ghana, he noted that “If somebody loves you, he should be able to admit you for who you are, accept all your weaknesses and all your failings”.
“I always tell people that if we were busily preaching that love, nobody would be preaching submission”, the relationship coach said.
He shared some experiences that as a counselor, patients have shared with him, to prove his point that since they have not been taught properly what love is, they rather feel uncomfortable when they are being truly loved.
“As a counselor, I get people say that they think the guy they’re dating is too good to be true and they think there’s something wrong because he never gets angry, never fights them, he’s always proper and does everything right but I tell them no, you grew up in dysfunction so when people are giving you what is the real deal, you think that is rather dysfunction”, he said.
“You have grown up seeing your father slap your mother from time-to-time and you’ve grown up seeing abuse so that has become your definition of love so much that when your man is not fighting you, heckling you or doing those things you witnessed your dad used to do to your mother, then you’re not comfortable”, the counselor observed.
According to him, these people, since they were never taught what love truly is, in turn do not know submission either. Hence, they may do things intentionally to provoke their man just to get him to hit her to prove to her that he loves her the way she has been made to understand love.
By: Maureen Dedei Quaye